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Overcoming your fears during a divorce

On Behalf of | Feb 20, 2023 | Family Law

Many people put off getting divorced because of the fear of starting over. Yet, they are unhappy in their current living situation in Missouri. It may be time to face your fears if that describes you.

Concerns about your children’s future

Talking to your soon-to-be ex-spouse may be the best way to overcome your fears about your children. You both want what is best for them, so try to negotiate until you reach an agreement. Mediation may keep your divorce from going through a lengthy court battle, which could have a negative impact on your children.

Losing assets

Many people going through a divorce fear losing what they have worked hard to accumulate. Missouri is an equitable distribution state, so if your divorce goes to court, the judge will divide your property fairly but not equally. Therefore, if there are things that you want to keep, consider using arbitration to settle your divorce.

Loss of identity

Many married people have put their spouse first for so long that they have forgotten that they have their own identities. Instead of fearing losing your identity as someone’s spouse, concentrate on rediscovering your own identity. Journaling about your dreams can be a handy tool for rediscovering what you want out of life and what you need to do to achieve it. Journaling can also help you acknowledge and overcome your fears about the divorce and your life going forward.

Losing Family

Many people have accepted their spouse’s family as their own. Remember that these people are still related to your children and that having a relationship with them is OK. While you may want to give them some space initially, talk to them to see if they still want to be your friends. Most will welcome that they can keep up with you, especially if children are involved.

Facing your fears can be challenging during a divorce, but you can find healthy ways to move on with your life.